Monday, December 28, 2009

My New Year's Resolutions

Defined as "the process of solving a problem," resolution cannot be done if we do not determine what the problem is first.

Here are some of the problems that I want to resolve:

1. The Fourth Commandment.
I admit, I am not the most respectful guy to my parents. My mom's probably right when she says that I'm even kinder and more respectful to others' parents. I don't know why though. Maybe because I've been living with my parents for so long now that any little fault or shortcoming they have irks me and I instantly snap at them or in my own style, be super sarcastic. I feel guilty after shutting them down though. My dad's hearing is not at its best (well, he's 66 now) and my mom just seems to get more irritating by the minute with her "I can't do anything for myself and I just want to order people around" attitude.

I promise I'll be more patient and more accommodating to them come 2010. I'll try not to get angry at them at the most insane and babaw reasons. If my dad asks me something three times, I'll answer him three times and even four times with a smile. When my mom asks me to help her with the computer, I will be the most obedient son there is and guide her step by step until she gets it. Damn, I even sound sarcastic while writing this down. Well, hopefully, I'm sincere. Hehe.

2. Be more productive.
No more slacking off. 2009 was a year of changes for me. Now I'm back and comfortable in the saddle. Sometimes I think that I have too much on my plate but that's how it's supposed to be when you're starting a business. Birth pains will be there for a long time but with constant research and help from my partners, I know we will get there. "Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans," as John Lennon said. And it really is better to burn out than to fade away. Let's all be more pro-active so that we won't regret anything in life.


3. Time Management.
I promise to give time to everything and everyone in my life. I'll say yes when my sister asks me to have a drink with her. I don't want to be responsible for a suicide, you know. Haha. I'll make myself more available to my girlfriend. I'll drive my mom to the grocery if she asks me to. I'll try to insert a couple of hours of exercise a week (good luck!). 


4. Be more creative.
Think of more out-of-the-box ideas. Write more intersting stuff in my blog. Study.


5. Exercise.
Yes, I feel my age already. And I'm not supposed to. I'm used to being active. I miss playing basketball and my bike is just gathering dust somewhere. I bought running shoes but I haven't used it already and it's a month old now. I need to be fit so I can live and write about Pinoy Midlife Crisis. Hehe. I need to move!


6. Act for the Future.
I need to invest in my future now. A house, a car, a family. It's about time.


7. Zero debt.
No more credit cards. Well, except for Paypal transactions for my earnings. Haha.


I cannot achieve all these in a week or in a month so I am giving myself three months for me to achieve all these. I quit smoking this year so that's out of the list. I need to be more dedicated to life. We all need to be more dedicated to life so we can change. 


Tara, let's all lose weight trying! Hopefully.





Friday, December 25, 2009

Fix You by Coldplay

Just a song about dealing with life. One of my favorites.

Fix You
by Coldplay

When you try your best but you don't succeed
When you get what you want but not what you need
When you feel so tired but you can't sleep
Stuck in reverse.

And the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can't replace
When you love someone but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

And high up above earth or down below
When you're too in love to let it go
But if you never try you'll never know
Just what you're worth

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

Tears stream, down your face
When you lose something you cannot replace
Tears stream down your face and I...


Tears stream, down your face
I promise you I will learn from my mistakes
Tears stream down your face and I...


Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you.




Thursday, December 24, 2009

Merry Christmas!



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Merry Christmas to all of us who are still confused and who are still at a loss at what to do in life?:)

Good luck to us!

Let us all be productive!

Monday, December 21, 2009

Wer Na U?

Hehehe, here's a link to a video me and my main man Jobit did for my Kuya Mikey's birthday recently. It's a play on the text lingo that is now (in)famous and also on the constant longing that my brother has for a partner.

It's amateurish we know, but it was fun;p

Here na u...

Wer Na U


Sunday, December 20, 2009

Christmas and Quarterlife Crisis

They said Jesus died when he was 31 years old. I'm 31 years old now. I don't want to die yet and I don't think I've done the things Jesus had done. Actually, I haven't even achieved half of what He did. And I don't think I would be able to even if I get to live to 2,000 years old. Hey, I'm no Jesus Christ.

And so are you? So is everyone else. So let's not be too pressured if we're not like Jesus. I don't think we can ever be. Although, the church teaches us to try. And, boy, am I failing miserably. But that's what is so nice about being God's child--he does not pressure us but he quietly encourages us. Through the things and the people around us, God is slowly but surely guiding us to be like Christ.

We can be confused, unhappy and lost but let us all remember that God (and the Christ within us) is always by our side. Christmas is a time for giving (we cannot give if we're not generous to ourselves). A time for forgiveness (forgive yourself for any shortcoming and you will have a lighter heart). A time for Christ.

This holiday season, let us not be confused. Let us not be lost and let us not be unhappy. For a few days in our lives, let us be happy with all the choices we have made in our lives and let us all be contented with what God has given us.

Merry Christmas to all of us:)




Sunday, December 13, 2009

What do Manny Pacquiao and Tiger Woods have in common with us?

They are two of the greatest athletes of our time. They are probably the most talented players from their respective sports. One is good-looking. The other is not. Haha, kidding. Well, who cares about their looks, right?! Woods can probably pay off our country’s debt. Pacquiao, on the otherhand, can afford to run and lose in as many elections as he can. That maybe one thing they have in common. With their money, they can do whatever they want to. With or without regard for the people who will get affected by their actions. That’s what money can give you. And talent. And it sucks for them that living in the spotlight magnifies whatever they decide to do. Be it wrong or right. They probably don’t care. They can always pay off whoever accuses them of something (Remember the child Pacquiao fathered? Whatever happened to that? Oh, he paid the mother? Okay.) or just win the next fight or tournament to get on the good side of the public once again. Easy pickings.

You see, both are about the same age as me. Although I envy the money and the fame (not so much but the money, yeah!) that the two have, I do not envy the responsibility that comes with their status or the attention that all their actions are given. I’d rather be poor than have my extra-marital affairs in headlines. Hell, I’d be pissed if the neighborhood chismosa spreads the news around the community! And I still want to pee anywhere I want to without it being documented, you know?

Can it be said that the two are also undergoing quarterlife crisis? Are they confused on what (who?) they really want in life? With all the money available to them, are they overwhelmed and are at a loss on what to do with all those cash? Ahem, ahem. Feel free to dump some on my bank account. Is it possible that the two most famous athletes in the world are confused and lost just like us? You tell me.

If not, then what? Are they just being men? They’re just doing what moneyed people are doing? What then? Are these excuses?

Aren’t they contented with all the houses, the nice cars, the whole lot? If we’re not content with our lives and we don’t have their money, what will make us happy and content then? Perhaps not money.

Well, for others, money is the end-all and be-all of everything. I’d like to think that I’m not one of them. For me, they’re the relationships that I have. With my parents, my siblings, my partner, my friends and all my other loved ones. Easy to say, I guess, because I don’t have their money, hehe. But I believe that holding my girlfriend’s hand definitely beats encashing a P1,000,000 check. The feeling when my mom bringing me medicine when I’m sick in bed surely will not be encompassed by a Ferrari (Seriously. Imagine a Ferrari entering your room and bringing you soup). My dad’s advices about life cannot be replaced even if top media personalities praise me on air or tell me what to do. All are priceless. They cannot be replaced by money, fame and fake friends.

I’d rather be handsome and poor than rich and ugly, my dad always joked. That may probably be true. Although I wish I WAS handsome. Haha.

Like Manny and Tiger, we all want happiness. But I think that as long as we are here on Earth, there will only be temporary happiness. There will always be someone better or richer than us. And we will always be jealous. That’s human nature and there’s nothing wrong with that. Let’s just work to achieve what the others have achieved without stepping on others. You’re lucky if you’re really happy. I envy YOU!

Although we don’t have their money, let us all at least keep our moralities intact. And hopefully, that will never be bought.






Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Kwentong Barbero



Classic. Barber shop. Remember the old red, blue and white thingy spinning around? I think that's the universal sign that the establishment is a barber shop. I never got that. I should research on that after this. Anyway, wow, the barber shop. A lot of memories quickly surround me. And I mean a lot.

My first taste of my hair being cut was from my dad. Yeah, not so good memories but truly very memorable. My dad was the first one who cut my hair. My mom and him fought afterward. Yeah, he caught me right smack at the edge of my left ear. It bled. My mom was furious. Me? I cried a few minutes but was all right after my mom nabbed me from my dad and gave me a lollipop. Up to now, they still talk about this and laugh at me. As if I was the one who committed that boo boo.

After that incident, I remember being at the garage or kitchen of our neighbor's lolo and being subjected to his ramblings about the war and about many things which now I don't remember. Yeah, my brother and I were subjected to a barber's long stories at a very young age. Hey, anything for a free haircut for my kids, my dad probably thought. Hooray for us.

Come to think of it (hehe, I have jokes here), I've only been to a barber shop. I've never been to a salon or parlor (apparently, the two are different). No, I'm not homophobic or something like that but there's just a sense of comfort when I'm inside a barber shop. The smell and sight of hair on the floor (not the smell of hair coloring or that foul, medicine-like smell). The stories you hear from the barbers themselves. I also don't know how the "kwentong barbero" term was coined. It now has a negative meaning. "Hoo, kwentong barbero ka naman, pare e!" In my village, it has even been shortened to "KB." Haha.

They just have views about everything. From how the president is running the country to why this congressman is now dating this particular starlet. Sometimes their arguments get too heated, you'll be afraid if they would stab each other with their scissors! Hopefully, this hasn't happened yet. Or has it? Haha.

I also have this weird thinking when I'm having my haircut. Back when I was in college, I remember praying for a nice haircut while I was seated and being pruned by the barber. Guess what? The haircut made me look like I was a tomboy. Seriously. Again, nothing against people from the fourth sex, okay? But I'm a guy! I should have a guy's haircut! So in my next haircuts after this episode, I don't know why, but I always noticed that barbers produced a bad haircut every time I prayed! So as much as I want  to thank God for giving me the money to still afford to have a haircut (and also for the barber not to cut my ear off), I wait until the haircut is done. Amen.

I don't know why I suddenly decided to write about barber shops. Maybe it's because it's part of my growing up. Until now, I still go to the local barber shops in our area. Nothing beats the facial with alcohol and the masaheng pilit after the haircut. Nothing beats the question, "Pagupit ka, pogi?" Yeah, being called pogi is nice too. Haha.It just brings you back to when you were young. Seeing barbers who were there since you were seven years old is somewhat comforting. Even though I really don't talk to them and just give them nods as answers, they're still kinda like uncles to me. Weird.

I still believe that many barberos can run a city or even a country better than some hooligans that we have in government now. They're sincere and they make you look good instead of them wanting themselves to look good. Although they may look sloppy on the outside, barbers just want you to look good for your girlfriends, wives and even your mistresses. Hehe.

Barbers for President! Oh, wait, he passed away na pala.



Saturday, November 28, 2009

Life-long Lessons

Lifted (with permission, of course!) from another highschool classmate (it runs in the school! haha), Trina Palana-Soledad.

Read on and discover a few things about her and about yourself;p

Thanks again, Trins!

1) Kung wala kang masasabing maganda, tumahimik ka na lang.
"If you can't say anything good, don't say anything at all."

2) Huwag kang mag-alala kung pag-tsismisan ka ng iba. Sa huli, lalabas din ang katotohanan.
"People will always say things about you. In the end, the truth shall prevail."

3) Ang pikon talo.
"The short-tempered always loses."

4) Kapag tumulong ka sa kapwa mo, dapat ito'y mula sa puso. Kung hindi, wag mo nang gawin. Hindi maganda ang nagpapanggap.
"If you help others, it must come from the heart. If it's not sincere, it's useless."

5) Ang respeto ay hindi basta basta binibigay sa tao. Kailangan mong ipakita na karapat-dapat kang bigyan ng respeto bago mo ito makamit.
"Respect is not just given. It is earned."

6) Wag mong hayaang tapakan ka ng ibang tao kung alam mong ikaw ay tama. Lumaban ka.
"Don’t let anyone step on you. If you know you're right, fight for it."

7) Lumayo ka sa mga taong negatibo and hindi masayahin. Sila ang tutulak sa iyo pababa.
"Stay away from negative and unhappy people; they will take you down with them."

8) Ang umaayaw ay di nagwawagi, ang nagwawagi ay di umaayaw.
"Quitters never win. Winners never quit."

9) Hindi pwerket madasalin ka, memoryado mo ang bibliya, palasimba ka at nag-bibigay ka na donasyon sa mahihirap ay didiretso ka na sa langit. Ang intensyon sa likod ng mga gawaing ito, ang pagtulong/kabaitan sa kapwa at kagandahan ng puso ang importante sa mata ng Diyos.
"If one prays a lot, memorizes the Bible, frequently attends mass and donates to charity - that doesn't mean you will go straight to heaven. The intentions behind those habits, good deeds and sincere hearts are what matters in the eyes of God."

10) Layuan ang mga taong nang-gagamit at mukhang pera.
"Stay away from people who are USERS and who WORSHIP money."
***USERS: People who use their friends/family for money, car rides, gifts, free meals (any freebies) and attention just to name a few. The ones who will be "extra" nice because they know they'll get something out of you/from you. After getting what they want, they'll go back to their rotten ways.***

11) Imbes na magreklamo, maghanap ka na lang ng solusyon.
"Instead of complaining and ranting, just go and find a solution."

12) Hindi lahat ng magulang mabait, mapag-mahal at mapag-aruga sa anak. Masuwerte ako at pinagpala ng Diyos at binigyan ako ng magulang na magmamahal sa akin kahit ano pang mangyari.
"Not all parents are loving, caring and supportive to their children. I'm blessed and lucky to have such amazing parents who love me unconditionally."

13) Ang inggitera/inggetero ay dapat iwasan. Wala kang mapapala sa kanila.
"Stay away from jealous or envious people. They will do you no good."

14) Aanhin ang kayamanan, tagumpay at dami ng ari-arian kung walang saya sa buhay mo? Walang pagmamahal? Mas mabuti nang ika'y mahirap pero masaya.
"What's the use of being rich, successful and having material wealth if you are not happy or if you have no love in your life? I'd rather be poor but happy in LOVE, in that case."

15) Kung hindi mo kayang bayaran ang isang bonggang kasal, wag mong gawing bongga. Tama na sa kakaisip sa imahen mo at tigilan na ang pagkukunwari. Kung mababaon ka sa utang, kababawan at katangahan na yun. Masmalala pa pagnanghingi ka ng kontribusyon sa mga taong inimbita mo sa kasal. Nakakahiya at low class naman.
"If you can't afford a lavish wedding, do not have one. Forget about your image. Don't be shallow and pretentious. If you will end up being in debt, it's not a smart decision. You will only make it worse if you go through it THEN end up asking money (or contributions) from people whom you've invited in your wedding. It's hands-down "embarrassing"." **based on other's experience.**

16) Hindi pwerket kamag-anak, dapat laging pag-pasensyahan. Pag-inalipusta ka, lumaban ka.
"Just because they are your relatives or family, you should let them say whatever they want to. If they disrespect or put you down, you have to do something about it."

17) Malaki ang pagkakaiba ng pagiging bastos at low-class sa pagtatanggol sa sarili.
"There's a big difference between being rude and standing up for yourself to preserve your dignity."

18) Iwasan ang mga taong natutuwa kapag nakikita kang hirap sa buhay
"Stay away from people who find pleasure and joy when you are going through hardships in life."

19) Huwag mong umpisahan ang isang bagay kung hindi mo kayang tapusin.
"Don't start anything if you can't finish it."

20) Sa pagbigay ng regalo: Mas may halaga ang intensyon ng taong nagbigay keysa sa regalo mismo. Walang deadline ang pagbigay ng regalo sa kahit anong okasyon. Kaya huwag mong madaliin yung magreregalo sayo. Huwag kang makapal - mahiya ka naman.
"The manner of giving is worth more than the gift. So never pressure nor rush anyone to give you gifts; no matter what the occasion is. There's no deadline. Don't be dense or shameless." ***This is NOT a fun experience when you're on the GIVING end.***

21) Ang anak ay hindi pabigat sa buhay kundi biyaya ng Maykapal. Hindi dapat isinusumbat ng magulang ang pag-aaruga sa anak dahil ito ay kanilang responsibilidad.
"Children aren't burdens but gifts from God. No parent should ever upbraid their kids- because caring for and loving them are their responsibility to God."

22) Pulutin ang mabuti, ang masama ay iwaksi.
"Emulate what is good, ignore what is bad."

23) Hindi napagtatanto ng tao na ang opinyon nila sa mundo ay isang pagkukumpisal ng kanilang karakter.
"People do not seem to realize that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character."

24) Kung sino ang masalita ay siyang kulang sa gawa.
"Whoever talks too much never do much."

25) Walang pag-asa ang taong mahilig mag-marunong, mapagmagaling at damang higit na mahusay siya sa iba. Dahil sa kanilang mundo, hindi sila maaring magkamali. At wala tao na makahihigit pa sa kanilang katalinuhan.
"There's no hope for people who are know-it-alls, self-righteous and superior. In their world, they do not & can never make mistakes. And for them, no one can be smarter than them."

26) Mahirap kausapin ang bobo at makitid utak. Ikaw ang talo. Sayang lang oras mo.
"It's hard to talk to stupid, ignorant & narrow-minded people...you won't be able to go through their brains. It's a waste of time."

27) Delikado ang taong may konting kaalaman. Sa isip niya, siya ay kagalingan kahit hindi.
"A little knowledge is dangerous: A small amount of knowledge can cause people to think they are more knowledgeable than they really are."

28) Minsan, ang taong hindi masaya sa kanyang sarili, sa asawa o buhay ay naghahatid ng pait sa mga tao sa kanyang kapaligiran nang hindi niya namamalayan.
"A person who is not happy with himself, his wife or his life unconsciously exudes/shows bitterness to the people around him."

29) Ang paghusga ng isang tao base sa kanyang trabaho, titulo, kapangyarihan, pera at ari-arian ay napakababaw. Ang tao ay dapat husgahan base sa kanyang intergridad at lakas ng loob.
"To judge a man based on his position or power or money he made are shallow. A man should be judged by his integrity and his inner strength."

30) Maraming taong magsasabing hindi mo kaya gawin ang maraming bagay. Hindi mo makakamit ang iyong adhikain at maaabot ang iyong mga pangarap. Di mo kailangan makinig. Gawin mo ang gusto mo. Huwag sumuko at ikaw ay magtatagumpay..
"Many people will tell you that you cannot do this or that; you can't reach your goals or attain your dreams. You don't have to listen. Do what you have to do. Don't give up and success will be yours."

Ang mamuhay ng mabuti ay ang pinakamatamis na paghihiganti.



Saturday, November 21, 2009

On moving out and parents...

It may be for a bunch of different reasons. You may have just realized that you and your parents cannot co-exist in one roof. You may have suddenly found that inner independence in you. Maybe you're from the province and needed a place that is nearer to your school or your place of work. Or maybe your boyfriend just asked you to move in with him. Man, your lucky if your parents just thought that you should have your own place just for the sake of it.

Well, for reasons that only you and you only will know, moving out is one of the most liberating and confusing and exciting and (insert more adjectives, adverbs, nouns or what-have-you's here) time in one's adult life. First off, let me tell you that I still live with my parents just to put things in perspective. From my perspective, that is. Anyway, probably one of the issues that you deal with once you experience Quarterlife Crisis is the moving out part. Should you or shouldn't you? Will you get a room mate or will you go solo (bringing your yaya with you does not make you go solo or does not make you independent, okay?)? What stuff to bring? Where will you live? Near your school, office, boyfriend/girlfriends' or just really far away from you parents? Do you have enough money to get you through the two months advance, one month deposit phase? Man, those are tough decisions to make. Kudos to you if you've already made them.

Uprooting your whole life from one location to another can be a pain in the ass and also on the wallet. As for me, it's more on the latter. I want to but I can't. I mean, I can but I can't. Get it? Some of my questions are, "Who will take care of my parents when I leave?," "What if something happens to them in the middle of the night and I'm not home to save them?," "What is a better way to use my money that I would be paying as rent?," but mostly "What for?"

My older brother moved out years ago and only comes home every Sunday. My office is just significantly near from where I live. My girlfriend lives nearby (not near enough though, she says. haha. hi baby!). And I just give money to my parents for spoiling me. Hehe. But yeah, it DOES cross my mind. Especially the times when my dad "accidentally" locks the security lock because he forgot I wasn't home yet. Or when my mom becomes too chatty and asks you every question invented in the world. Or when I just feel like I want to be alone. But then again, I'd rather live with my parents and have those occasional fights and arguments rather than live alone and fight and complain to a wall or to an LCD TV. I'd rather have interaction with my cousins and my pamangkins (we live in a compound) than wallow in this Quarterlife Crisis alone in my balcony that can only fit my right leg.

Although I admit that I envy those who are already living on their own, I still think that right now, my place is here at home. It's cheaper and it's more fun. If I want to talk to somebody, I just go to my parents' room. If I wanna play a prank on somebody, I just go to my sister's room. And yeah, the household help is also okay. Haha.

I also want to be here with my parents, basically. They're old and can really get to my nerves with just a few words but they're my parents. I want to take care of them and not regret not having to have spent time with them while they're still here. At least I get to see them everyday. Get to pick up lessons from them every dinner time when they preach. And maybe someday I'll get this house too as consolation for all these. Hahaha, I'm totally kidding. I just don't want to be like some friends who never got to tell their parents they love them everyday before they go to bed. I want to hug them when something good or bad happens to me on a particular day. I want to go to them when I need some advice. I just hope God gives me more patience and understanding. Hehe. They're my parents and I should love and respect them (mental note: put this statement on my bathroom mirror). It's not even about the house. It's about the experience of living at home.

So, are you ready to move out? Need a room mate? Nah, I'm fine here...:)

Now to play a prank on my helpless sister...




Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Break from the madness

Will be having limited internet access as I'm going to the Ad Congress in Subic. Haha, as if I have regular readers!

Oh, I think there's more madness there though...




Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Quarterlife Crisis Defined by unknown

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The Quarter-Life Crisis
by unknown


It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may or may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.



You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.



You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared.



You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all.



You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not. You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.



You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person.

One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.



You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while wining the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!



What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.






Sunday, November 15, 2009

Do you think Pacquiao ever experienced Quarterlife Crisis?

Seriously? You think he has/does?

After waking up at 7 a.m. today (probably the earliest I've woken up on a Sunday since braces were the "in" thing) and driving all the way to Makati with my dad to watch the live broadcast of the Pacquiao-Cotto fight with my brother, the thought suddenly entered my mind. Did Manny Pacquiao ever experience being lost and confused? Hey, he's the same age as me and we see him smiling before a very important fight. He must not have a lot of problems. But then I realized that the guy came from a poor family. He struggled at a very young age and even worked odd jobs just to support his family.

He did experience quarterlife crisis. But he was way younger than any of us. AND he worked hard to overcome that. When they didn't have a decent meal on their small table, he didn't just say, "Screw this, I'm stealing" or "I'm just gonna give up and die with the rest of my family." No. He willed himself to where he is now. It all started with a decision. He decided that he would do anything just to take care of his family. Just to put food on their table. And that was what happened. He discovered that he had a talent. He strove to become a good boxer. Then from that point on, he decided that he was gonna be the best boxer in the world and worked even harder to achieve this.

After demolishing Puerto Rican Miguel Cotto earlier, he has reached his goal. Many times over. Financially and maybe emotionally (he's a boxer so the "physically" part depends on his opponents if they're not Mexicans). He has uprooted his family and gave them a bigger table where there are many food to eat. Where there are choices on what to eat.

He made a choice. This was to do something about his situation. He did not blame the government (okay, he probably did). He did not resort to stealing or doing drugs because of depression. He did not get mad at his parents for not giving them a better future. He took the road less traveled. He punched his way to the top. Like what we all should do. Starting now. Not literally, hopefully.

Some observations while watching the fight at Fiamma earlier (Thanks, Rosa!):

  • Longanisa stays in your breath for a minimum of five hours.
  • I can still chew gum for more than five hours (my record is nine hours).
  • Julio Cesar Chavez Jr. got the best reception especially from the girls (yes, some guys cheered for him because of his looks too). Oh, and this despite sporting an 80s hairdo.
  • The Wapakman trailer also garnered a lot of applause from the crowd although most were laughing.
  • Cotto didn't need to wink when he actually winked at Pacquiao after the fight because his eye was already half-shut.

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

God comes to us exactly where we are...

Reposting from high school batchmate and fellow kulot Michelle Nacianceno. Thanks, Lai, for posting this:)

God comes to us exactly where we are—

Not where we should have been if we had made all the right choices in life, ... Read More
Not where we could have been if we had taken every opportunity that God has offered us,
Not where we wish we were if we didn’t have to be in the place where we find ourselves,
Not where we think we are because our minds are out of sync with our hearts,
Not where other people think we are or think we ought to be when they are attending to their own agendas.

God comes to us exactly where we are, right now.



Someone actually agrees with me! Haha


Here is a message to me by a high school batchmate. May I say that she could not have said it any better. Thanks, Annabelle! And yeah, here's to less suicides! Haha.

I've read your blog on QUARTERLIFE CRISIS and even if I caught the clarity of your message (I hope I really did), I still read your blog the 3rd time as of today. I was trying to deeply digest the thoughts you put in altogether holding on to it as an opportunity for me to reflect on my own, to understand which of your examples I might fit in or describe me. Till I came upon a logical conclusion: My life isn't perfect. I'm not perfect. You're not perfect. Your neighbor, your parents, teachers and everyone else isn’t perfect. Life isn't suppose to be perfect. Imperfection creates perfection. When we stumble and fall, we all as human beings have the God given instinctive gift to stand up almost right after.
Quarterlife crisis, mid-life crisis.... it's both crisis. No matter where we are in our life, no matter how far we've gone, achieved or underachieve... No matter how successful or perhaps feeling inefficient, I think every man is bound to find himself every once in a while in his life to ponder on things he knows he can achieve or do better but didnt. I believe the "being or feeling" lost is the key to finding our better selves. It is a chance of pursuing your dream. When you know you're lost, then you know where you actually want to go. You may not know exactly where, but for sure if you're lost you have that feeling you're not suppose to be there. So obviously you know you’ve got to go find the right place. But that shouldn’t be considered crisis. The finding or searching is a bright big sign of HOPE.
Sure I ask myself “what have I done with my life”………….. and I always know my answer is “I can be better”. Because I know that just like you and everyone else in this world, God blessed me with capabilities I might have not fully explored yet. And I have watched a thousand of times from “The Secret”, how we can create something out of nothing and how the law of attraction can bring us to what our mind wants to achieve. And so why am I not the President? Surely, if I wanted to contribute in this country I might as well be one. Hahah! How was I in High School and College? I’ve gone through adventures and may have fallen hard from the sky. Hurt myself and saw a stupid girl for being stupid when she’s really smart. Haha! But I surely have enjoyed all its worth and no regrets! Then howcome I find myself also asking the “what ifs”? Hmm…. Is it because I’m only human and bound to always ask out of curiosity? Face it, the human race is bound to be hungry for more. Never contented. Or only contented for a short period of time and then wants more. It’s in our system. It’s universal. Our mind, our body, the universe all work the same. Always needing something to feed its existence.
If I’m running my own company then why do I still ask money from my dad? Well, why does everyone I know still ask money from their parents? Don’t tell me you have not borrowed or received any single cent or peso from your dad or mom this year or last year. There is something truly different from how our parents were raised by our grandparents and how our parents may have raised our generation. Am I blaming our parents? Of course not! I’m just saying! Besides, all the bad attitude came from the wrong teachings and example of a woman named Rebekkah, she is the mother of all b#tch@s from the BC, married to Abram, … taught her favorite son how to be self centered, lie, manipulate and steal. (This is another topic and irrelevant but an interesting story from the greatest book of history, the Bible.)

Back to the topic: When you said there are those who are just lucky and know what to do in their life. Well, I can say there are probably many out there who knows what they want to do in their life but still not successful and ask themselves why. So are they the lucky ones? I honestly think the lucky ones are the ones who can seriously deeply find true happiness within. These are the people who can find contentment no matter what life brings them. Hey, I’m not perfect and I will be honest to say, I have high expectations of myself and still striving to achieve atleast half of what my parents achieved. But I do take pride in finding the greatest joy and contentment whenever I am my best at being a mother to my two adorable kids who reciprocates the love and values I’ve inculcated in them for them to apply towards their friends, family and hopefully the rest of society as they grow. This gives me a reason to answer my hunger for contentment. I can die today, …. Face God and tell him….I was not perfect like you but I was like you, All Knowing, All loving, All merciful when I brought 2 lives in this world! Raised and still is raising my children well in order for them to contribute to, if not good, to a better society.

So whatever the crisis, midlife or quarterlife… it’s crisis when you see it as crisis and not find the light in it. But it sure does give us a reason to drink, weep and whine. Not the most outstanding thing to do but very typically human. Very normal.

---Annabelle M. Papas




Sunday, November 8, 2009

Business-mind-dead


I remember my Tita Bessie telling her son Rommel and me one dinner that we can never be rich in this country if not for two things: Having rich parents and having your own business. Or, establishing your own religion (this was my other option, haha). Upon hearing that, I already knew what I wanted to have (well, I was looking for rich parents for sale on Google but unfortunately they didn't have any)--my own business (I also researched about that religion thing but the market was over-saturated already).

Hence, www.pinoycallture.com. Although it took me a gazilion years before I thought of a solid business, I still think that having your own company will not only make you richer faster but also give you the sense of pride and satisfaction that only your own possession can give. Kinda like your own child earning his/her first peso or your horse winning in a race (haha, that's totally different, I'm sorry). You see, I've dabbled into business before. Yeah, I sold basketball cards to classmates as well as played with fire by selling fireworks (with Rommel) and even rented a stall in a tiangge and went to Divisoria regularly for that. If you know me well enough then you know that that was a real chore.

Anyway, an epiphany came to me last Christmas break and now the plan is in fruition. Not yet fruit-bearing but at least it is now a real company. Of course, I only got the people that I know can help me nurture the company and make it the best company that we can have (or enough for me to save up and invest in my own religion). We're now at the birth pains stage and I cannot ask for anything more. I know that going through some aches and pains (not only in business) only brings forth blessings in the end. Although it's hard to introduce a new concept (everyone's going digital!) to people, I still thank the Lord that many people are still open to new ideas for their businesses and the way they interact.

My tita is hopefully right and maybe someday I'll get to enjoy the fruits of what we're doing now. But for me, aside from the material possessions that I may be able to buy in the future, the real reward for me is the experience. What the struggles bring/brought. What I learned from starting a business. The friends and contacts met. The discussions me and my partners had. Learning more about them and teaching each other what we know best. Being rejected. Everything.

If you just keep on bouncing around jobs and are really at a loss on what you want to do in life, then try putting up a business. Maybe the corporate world is not for you. Study about the business first, of course. What you don't know won't hurt you. So you have to know everything that can happen to your endeavor.

I say that if you really want to know about your self, your real self, go and start a business. You'll learn how tough you are. You'll find out just how patient and understanding you are. My favorite saying now is, "Nothing ventured, nothing gained."

Go and venture! Go and gain.



Saturday, November 7, 2009

Innatia

A poem composed for me by my brother during harder times...I still read it once in a while...Thanks for this, Kuya Mike...






Innatia

This is for the confused and bewildered.
For those overwhelmed by the beauty and filth of the Earth.
For those in the midst of hopelessness whilst swathed in splendor.
This is for you.
You are safe in my bosom and constantly under my concerned eye.
The rapture that is you will always propel you to fulfill your dreams.
And I will never tire of telling you this.
A believe in you as you believe in yourself.
For I know that within the blazes of your core you have weighed your strength.
And have deemed it fit.
Fit to devour our malice and slap humanity's ugly face.
And offer your cheek then leave as you wish.
Because the power that you wield is heavy on your hand.
And upon opening your clenched fist, you will unleash the fervor that we need.
The fervor that is in you.
The fervor that is you.
And so, your luck shall not run low.
Instead it overflows.
Yet, luck is not what you need.
But founding of what is arcane; and a steady steed that will take you to where
you know you should be among those who have combed mankind with the lengths of their fingers.
And held the world with thumb and pointer.
Laughing at its lateness.

-Mike Constantino

Truly a beautiful and apt poem. Perfect for those experiencing Quarterlife Crisis. Perfect.

Thank you again, my brother.




Thursday, November 5, 2009

Women and Shopping:)

Women and shopping. Always a sight to marvel at. EVEN if you're the one following your partner all around the store and ALL AROUND the mall. Yeah, being part of the experience is really quite interesting. Yeah, I must admit (c'mon guys, admit this to) that there can be more satisfying activities than lugging around the shopping bags of your wife or girlfriend (yeah...happy hour...mmm...) but I believe that this is one of man's responsibilities when it comes to having a partner. Even if the whole time you're right arm is longer than you're left arm, it is still a fun experience if you make it so. Me, I've learned to balance the time I'm holding the bags. 15 minutes on the right arm then 15 minutes on the left arm. It's also funny when men look at each other and give each other a sort of comforting look seemingly saying, "You're not alone. We can do this."

Although it will always be a mystery why women take longer than men when shopping (just some one more thing that takes them longer to achieve!), I don't think there will ever be an end to the relationship between them and malls. It is perhaps the best relationship for them. It's like men with bars. They go there, have fun, leave their responsibilities behind for a couple of hours then go home to their real partners. It can't get any better than that.

Oh, not knowing what to buy is not really an integral part of quarterlife crisis. It just means that you're a woman:) Which isn't really a bad thing, okay? My girlfriend might be reading this. She might not pay for our dinner the next time I accompany her shopping.





Tuesday, November 3, 2009

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Saturday, October 31, 2009

Manila Zoo

Last time I went to Manila Zoo was when I was in elementary (yeah, that was a long time ago, I know! You'll grow old too. Bastard.) and this was according to my mom. I don't even remember going there. I think I have pictures but that I certainly didn't look like I was studying already then. Maybe my mom mistook another boy for me. Haha.



Anyway, my girlfriend and I paid the famous but now infamous Manila Zoo yesterday a visit. We really (she, actually) wanted to go to Malabon Zoo or Avilon Zoo but I convinced her that those two other (better) zoos were just too far away. For P40 (Manila City residents pay half the price) for adults and P20 for children, I can say that you really get what you pay for. Although it's not really my intention to lambast public officials who should take care of one of the oldest zoos in Asia, please bear with my honest observations.



The animals, I think, are poorly cared for. I am not really an expert in taking care of animals and they don't actually smile and let visitors know that they're happy so I may be wrong. Hehe. There's an Asian Elephant near the entrance of the zoo but he's alone. That's sad. Imagine being in captive and alone in a territory not of your own. And this elephant didn't rape a 13-year-old, mind you. Oh, that criminal had it better than him actually. I always thought of zoos as a very lively and happy place. Manila Zoo simply was not what I imagined. The animals seemed lonely, man. The tigers were always inside their little caves and went out for one minute just to pee. I was lucky to have caught a tiger out of its cave and resting on a monobloc chair (refer to picture above).  Haha, just playing. Here's a photo of one of the lonely tigers:


And yeah, it was actually peeing at that moment. Haha. Like in anything in life, Manila Zoo needs a lot of improving. But I still want to commend those who are responsible for maintaining the zoo for giving us Filipinos a chance to see different kinds of snakes, lizards, birds, monkeys, tigers and an elephant. I just hope that concerned officials (yes, those with funds that should be appropriated to endeavors like this) prioritize projects like this. I remember Manila Zoo as being one of the regular field trip destinations so kids would be educated more about animals. I hope we can bring back that time. Hey, viewing wild animals for P40? That's a bargain. I won't even discuss the rights of these animals in this blog entry. That's going to be a long discussion. I don't have the authority over that topic.

There were some fun instances though that were really funny. Like when this guy (Monalinda as his shirt said--nice name, huh? haha) from the zoo suddenly entered the crocodile's lair and poked the big fella to the delight of everyone! I also saw this poor old guy sleeping on the bench probably letting his grand children have a grand time while he's sleeping it off under some eagles. There was also a time when two young boys were calling the elephant, "Jumbo! Jumbo!" Yeah, if you don't see what's funny there then you should go back to elementary too.




Relating Manila Zoo to the main agenda of this blog, I just want to say that people should not be put in cages. Let us all be reminded that God gave us freedom to choose. Let us not be trapped in a box that society or our parents dictates us to be in. We should explore possibilities and not limit ourselves to certain things. Remember, "Nothing ventured, nothing gained." Quarterlife Crisis will be easier to figure out.

Oh, we enjoyed a pedicab ride too!





Wednesday, October 28, 2009

It tastes like balls around here...hmm...


Here's an article I wrote for JUAN Philippines Magazine about being adventurous, dangerous and uhm...stupid? Haha. I took The Plunge. A different kind of plunge. A lighter plunge. Enough about plunges. Here's the article about Danao, Bohol (EAT Danao):


“Plunge boldly into the thick of life, and seize it where you will, it is always interesting.” –Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
With that quote and we took the plunge. No, not marriage (we’re not yet THAT crazy). THE PLUNGE. Yes, the one everyone is talking about nowadays. That amazing 45-meter drop to oblivion from a platform 200 meters from the ground. When we say ground, we mean, trees, rocks and a river. Wild, right?
Welcome to Danao, Bohol. THE next Mecca in adventure sports activities.
Cleverly coined E.A.T. Danao meaning Eco, Extreme and Educational Adventure Tourism, the Danao Adventure Park is really worth consuming. All 15 or so of its activities will leave you wanting for more. This, we must say, is what you call an adventure.
Just a 90-minute drive from the Tagbilaran airport, the adventure park offers activities like rappelling, kayaking, caving, tubing, root climbing, a zipline and The Plunge. The adventure park was borne out of the desire of the local government unit, led by Mayor Tom Gonzaga, to maximize the natural resources the community has to offer as well as provide the locals in the area livelihood. Oh, and the tourism aspect of the park just takes the cake. Known as the province where hero Francisco Dagohoy held off Spanish soldiers during the war, the area is presently being groomed to be the ultimate adventure sports enthusiast’s nirvana.
If you’re tired of always visiting the beaches around the country and get bored staying in hotels and you’re looking for other activities here in the PI that is really more than the usual, then Danao is the perfect place for you. Here, you can test your limits (or age) to the fullest. Are you afraid of heights? Do the Suislide (zipline), The Plunge, rappelling and the Sky Ride. Afraid of cramped spaces? Conquer the three caves that they offer.
The Sky Ride is a more relaxing and less nerve-wracking way of enjoying being on top of the world. You’re seated (with actual people) and you’re whisked off to travel some 900 meters (coming and going) above 200 meters of foliage. This, we think, is a more peaceful way of enjoying the natural resources of Danao.
This, probably, is what makes the Danao Adventure Park a place everyone can visit. If you’re too scared (yes, we’re mocking you) to do a 45-meter free fall or to devote two to three hours of your time exploring caves, the park has other activities for you that are equally relaxing but still possess that edge on it. You can be one with the lake by kayaking or tubing and even try your hand at mountain biking. You can also visit their organic farm and even make your own salad. How’s that for a balanced experience?
Aside from the activities mentioned above, the highlights of the trip to Danao are the zipline and The Plunge.
Imagine yourself above a river and lots and lots of trees then you zipping by them 200 meters above. Now we know how Superman feels like. It’s an exhilarating feeling being up there. You feel invincible. The first line measures a distance of 480 meters while the second line (yes, you have time to rest and compose yourself again—or think if you’re just going to go through the ride of shame back) is 460 meters. That’s a total of 940 meters of open air! Whew (we’re actually whew-ing because we had to add)!
The Suislide can also carry 25 tons so no need to worry about those extra pounds . You won’t fall. I didn’t.
Perhaps what stole my heart (or stopped it for some five seconds) in the trip to Danao was The Plunge. This, everyone should experience at least once in their life. AT LEAST once. After surviving this, we’re pretty sure you’d want to try it again and again. If you want to push yourself to the limit, The Plunge will definitely test what you have in your heart. Just don’t look down.
Hanging 200 meters above an undetermined amount of trees and water, you are left to your thoughts. “Why am I doing this?”, “Who put me up to this?” and “Where’s my mommy?!” Then a countdown begins and you’re released and experience a 45-meter drop to you-don’t-know-where-and-how-long. It’s been a month and I can still recall the free fall. Your life does not flash before your very eyes but, believe me, it’s very close to that. It’s just you, the cables and nature. After the drop, you’re again left to your thoughts while you’re hanging down that cable. The feeling is so peaceful and serene. This after an almost life-ending fall. The feeling is just magical. Adrenaline Rush Tourism at its best, as some locals call it. Once you take The Plunge, I guarantee you’ll be ready for any obstacle or challenge in life. If you conquered this fear, then you can just go on with life whistling happy tunes. You can even ask Tourism Sec. Ace Durano. He has already taken the plunge. And for only P700, you can conquer your fear or add on to your “Why did I do that?” or “Been there, done that” list. And here’s an extra challenge for men: 70 percent of those who have taken The Plunge are women. Yup.
The Plunge really comes close to being better than what you do with your husband or wife, I tell you. Yeah, grocery shopping is nothing compared to this. Wink, wink.
Accommodations and food are also not a problem as you feel like royalty once you’re there. The locals are also very friendly and helpful and they always have a smile ready for everyone that visits.
Are you the type of person that will try anything once in your life? Then you should definitely book that flight to Bohol now and visit Danao. Now.
We came. We saw. We consumed Danao. Yes, we ate Danao.
5,4,3,2,1! Bombs away!
Special thanks to Ian Gonzaga and Ian Sepulveda for assisting the JUAN team. For more information about the trips, you may visit www.eatdanao.com. The two Ian’s can also set up adventure tours depending on wha tactivities you want to do in Danao. Just call or text them at 0917-3252426.
Check out the October-November 2009 issue of JUAN Philippines Magazine in airports, call centers, resorts and hotels and in some coffee shops around the country or download the magazine at www.juanphilippines.com.






The best a man can get

Remember the razor commercial with this tagline? Yeah, stop singing the jingle now, please. I only found out a year ago that this can mean two things. The best a man can get can refer to the razor that he can use for best results in shaving. The other meaning can be taken as how can a man achieve greatness or how we can be the best that we can get. The other meaning was pointed out to me by a book by John O'Farell entitled...wait for it...The Best a Man Can Get. It's about a guy with a wife and a new born who works as an ad man and shuttles back and forth from his house to the recording studio. Uhm...the recording studio is actually a flat that he rents with three other guys. Yup, and the wife doesn't know it.

Anyway, it's about a man with two identities. He's the single guy when in his pad and he's the family guy (he tries his best to be) when he's at home. Eventually, he realizes that he needs his family more and that he needs to stop lying to his wife. Yeah, he got caught.

Tempting, huh? Yeah, go ahead, try it. Let's see if your conscience doesn't kill you.

At any rate, the book just reintroduced to me the responsibilities of being a man. Yes, if we're lucky, we may have that wife and kid who can love us and care for us. And yes, we SHOULD take care of them. That just means that we have to limit (notice I didn't say "stop") our lifestyle of living like a single man. No to three times a week of drinking with your buddies. Refraining from developing childlike hobbies unless you actually play with your children. Reserve the buying of really expensive sports cars or helicopters (hey, that's my dream! so what?!) until your kids are done with college. Things like that. BUT. Yes, there's a but so don't worry. But remember to keep your identity. I am still Dinjo sometimes and not Dinjo the Dad. We still all need to have our own personal space too. We also need time away from the wife and kids (No! Not with other women!).

Just remember your priority--your family. Don't forget that. We, men, were created to take care of our family. And that's the best that we can get. Not sports records. Not money in your bank account. Not the collection of girls. It's taking care of your wife and children. That's the best a man can get.




Sunday, October 25, 2009

Jump Shot

For reasons I don't know of and with no connections whatsoever to the topic in this blog, I just felt like writing about the now famous (infamous?) occurrence in every beach trip--the jump shot.

Yeah? Haven't been in a photo like this or haven't jumped with the sunset as background yet? Then you are not normal. Haha. I just find it funny. I've participated in one or two but that was due to peer pressure. I've taken a lot of those photos though and I really find it SOOOO funny!

It's a constant in all beach trips. Size doesn't matter also. This is where you realize that some jump higher than others and others are more creative in their poses.

My friends had a different idea. They posed for a jump shot in the airport AFTER the beach trip already. Hehe. Hey, technically it's still part of the trip, right?

I've even seen girls taking their own jump shots! Really! With the remote and tripod. True story! And also men, taking turns taking each others' jump shots using a cellphone! Hilarious!




Well, enough of this nonsense. Send me your jump shots through dinjo.constantino@gmail.com and let's make an album! Hehe.

The jump shot just goes to show that we will always be kids. No matter how old we are or no matter where we are. Altogether now...JUMP!!!




Tuesday, October 20, 2009

On Contentment

Do people ever get contented with what they have, who they are, who they're with, what they drive, what they do, where they live, etc.?

Are you?

Although we were taught to be content with what we already have, people around us still tell us to use our full potential and reach for more. Confusing, huh? Who do we follow? Our dad who thinks that we can have a better job? Our mom who wants us to find a more "suitable" girlfriend? Your peers who seem to just be enjoying living life because they have rich parents? Or your heart?

Your heart that tells you to follow what makes you happy. Your heart that skips a beat every time you're with the girl your mom doesn't like. Your heart that is still lost and is still looking for what's going to make it happy. Or your mind?

Your mind that tells you to stay where you are now because you're more stable there. Your mind that tells you to look for better opportunities because you will soon get married and you need a better job to support your family. Or society?

Does society say that since you're nearing your 30s you should be in this kind of job or living like this or like that? Do you feel condemned or pressured by society because at 30 you still don't have a steady girlfriend and still live with your parents?

What if we have all those already? What if you have all the material things that you think you need to survive? What if you don't? What if you do but you still feel that something is lacking?

Will we ever get contented? Are we going to always want for something better? Will we ever be happy in life? Where do we find contentment? I say it's within yourself. You find true happiness inside your heart. Whatever makes YOU happy, is what you SHOULD be doing.





Friday, October 9, 2009

What is Quarterlife Crisis? Pinoy style.

Exactly what is a quarterlife crisis?

Well, how old do you expect to live? How old is the midlife crisis usually? Well, it was pegged at 50 years old a few decades ago when there weren't too many factories emitting smoke, less drunk drivers, lower prices of fuel and not too many people were killing themselves (and others) just to rid them of problems in life (many EDSA billboards had been witness to this). Okay, so with my God Giveth and the Lord taketh away mathematical prowess, I assume that quarterlife crisis occurs when you're around 23 years old until you're around 30 (at least mine did). It's the time you wake up on your birthday (or one somebody else's bed) and question yourself--what have I done with my life?

Yeah, what have you done with your life? Or better yet, what are you capable of doing with your life? In those 20 or so years, what have you contributed to this world (or to make you feel a little better, in our country, your family or to your future at least). Or would you even have a future or just contribute to your early demise?

It's about re-evaluating your life. Your young and "productive" life. It's wondering about your self-worth. It's looking back at your high school and college (I'm hoping you're out of college already) peers and trying your best not to compare your achievements with them but failing to do so miserably. It's wishing you had richer parents or were just borne into royalty (lucky you! bastard). It's realizing that you're not the most sought after bachelor/bachelorette after graduating from high school now that your world just got bigger coz you're in college or in the corporate world and now have more competition (don't worry, I'm sure your GPA is higher than theirs. uh-huh. and isn't it normal to still have pimples?!).

Are you forever going to rely on your parents? If you are, then give me your address so I can ask your parents if they're open to adopting a 31 year old guy. If you're slowly growing a conscience and kicking yourself (not literally! stop that!) for still asking for gas money from "dada," then you are experiencing quarterlife crisis. If you're still reading this sentence, then you are experiencing quarterlife crisis.

Yes, admit it. Once in your life or in one drinking session with your best mates, you've thought of all those written above (lucky you if you don't have pimples though!).

I'm not saying or assuming that everyone goes through this phenomena. There are those lucky individuals (go rot in hell!) who just know what to do. Thrust upon them is the knowledge or wisdom that they are bound to achieve in this life. That they just know what to do with their lives. OR are just content with who they are now. We shall call them "the lucky ones." They are lucky enough to realize at a young age what they ought to do in this life. They know what they want and are already on their way to achieving that. Truly, they ARE the lucky ones.

Each individual has their own goals (growing a full mustache is not a goal, okay?). It may be serving people, buying expensive cars, providing for a family, being their own boss, traveling around the globe or even becoming the president (oh please have this dream come true for someone right now, Lord) but all of us pass through a stage. This stage I will call the "what if" stage.

What if I studied for that entrance exam instead of attending my friend's birthday party where I wasn't even able to talk to my crush? What if I trained hard at the sport I was excelling in rather than relying on my dad's friend to put me in the Philippine Team (the friend died before final the line up was announced?!). What if I took up that offer from my aunt to study abroad? What if I pursued her/him? What if I didn't let my boss harass me into having this relationship with him? What if I looked to the left first instead of to the right, then I wouldn't be in a wheelchair now (okay, just checking if you're still paying attention!).

Forgive the rambling. I just wanted everyone to understand what quarterlife crisis is and to let those that are experiencing them now know that they are not alone.

So, what are your "what if's?"

This is what this blog is all about.

Our journey to finding ourselves. Pinoy style.